If you know an experience is ahead of you can you avoid it? Maybe yes and maybe no. As a psychic I listen to the “small, still voice within,” as often as possible. Recently, I was given a 15-minute heads up that someone was going to run into my car. Despite evasive maneuvers on my part, my car was hit. Advance knowledge may have resulted in less extensive damage, but the outcome was the same.
I ran through possible reasons for the wreck: Was I thinking negative thoughts thereby bringing negativity onto myself? Nope. Had I recently directed negative energy towards another person (KARMA)? Nope.
I came to the conclusion that sometimes events just happen.
If you’ve been through a traumatic experience and have asked yourself, “Why me?” “Why now?” The answer may simply be that you must go through the experience as part of your life progression. It’s certainly understandable that you may be angry, frustrated or sad, so by all means feel those feelings but then let them go. Rather than blame others or beat yourself up with negative self-talk, shift your focus and ask: “What can I learn from this experience?”
Oftentimes, the answer may be something simple. An experience may illustrate the need for greater patience, allow you to see the value of the present moment (Whew! I’m alive!), or encourage you to shift thoughts towards an “attitude of gratitude,” recognizing that while events happen from time to time you still have good people in your life and fun experiences that bring you joy.
Other times, the life lesson may be unclear. If that’s the case, it may be best to accept the experience for what it is so you can move on to better things.
Some of God’s Greatest Gifts are Unanswered Prayers – Garth Brooks
When we focus on something we truly want and ask or pray for it, but the universe fails to deliver as requested, it may be that having that thing (improved health, wealth, lover, job, car, and new home) was not meant to be. Instead, your life path may involve other 
people, places and things that you do not know about and have yet to experience. It’s possible that the people you will meet and future life experiences you will have could not happen had you been granted those wishes.
Be Mindful of Your Thoughts
You probably know of someone who has experienced a tragedy in life but is able to push past it to accomplish great things. At the same time, another friend or acquaintance may become stuck in the “would have, could have, should have” thinking cycle and just never seems to bounce back.
One way to move past a tragic event is to be mindful of our thoughts. This can be done through meditation or shifting focus to the present – even if it’s a simple task such as washing the dishes or enjoying a cup of tea. Certainly, those that have experienced a tragedy think about it from time to time, but they don’t dwell on the event or let it define the future.
Observing your thoughts and acknowledging them is the first step towards greater self-awareness and change. Renowned Zen Master Thich Nhat Hanh in his book, “The Miracle of Mindfulness,” writes about mindfulness and meditation:
“We are both the mind and the observer of the mind. Therefore, chasing away or dwelling on any thought isn’t the important thing. The important thing is to be aware of the thought.”
The benefits of mindfulness are numerous. In a 2013 study, Wendy Hasenkamp, Ph.D., discovered that those who practiced meditation had better focus and less anxiety and depression. For more on the study, click here.
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