Psychics see visions (like a brief clip from a video), receive impressions (smell the earth, see leaves and glimpses of people and expressions), hear words from the dead and “feel” how they died (a sharp pain in the chest, a stomach ache, choking sensation, etc.), but may not always be able to pinpoint the location where the body can be found. I am one of them.Keep reading
In recent months two friends crossed over to the light. Kent Boxberger was a teacher and mentor and Nikola Preusser was someone I have known all of my adult life. Kent taught me to trust in self with the knowledge that things will work out. Nikola taught me the importance of living the life I choose.
I attended Kent’s metaphysics classes on and off from 2013 until 2018. He spoke about the Law of Attraction and followed several channelers in the metaphysical world including Esther Hicks, who channels Abraham; Darryl Anka, who channels Bashar; and Lee Carroll, who channels Kryon.
One of the mantras he suggested practicing daily was this:
My Daily Life Path and Career is to FEEL AS GOOD AS I CAN FOR AS LONG AS I CAN expecting that “Things are always working out for me,” no matter what as I “Follow my Highest Excitement, moment to moment, with Love.”
I believe we come into this life for a purpose. It may be to learn unconditional love, patience, how to care for others, or simply to make a difference in the world.
While I did not always agree with Kent’s point of view, I realized the wisdom in many things he said.
Kent believed that we were greater than we believed ourselves to be; we were not just a pile of skin and bones. Instead, we were 97% vibrational energy. We start out in this life as 100 percent unconditional love and then we build belief systems along the way that create resistance (or what some may refer to as negative belief systems) in our lives.
The key is to radiate love and the feeling of love to build a better life. Esther Hicks, who channels Abraham, talks quite a bit about being “in the vortex.” So how do you know if you are in or out of the vortex? Ask yourself how you feel about different things in your life and see where it registers on the scale. If you are out of the vortex on a certain issue, work on changing the feeling.
In life you may have had experiences of 100 percent unconditional love (think of the love you feel with a pet or a baby, a friend or a family member), but it’s not easy to maintain that “love” feeling all of the time. The reason is resistance. Resistance may be perceived as “negative thoughts” such as fear, feelings of lack, low self-worth, etc., all of which get in the way of feeling good. Depending on your belief system, God may exist as a distant entity, as a part of you (the Still Voice Within), or Source Energy (God is in all things). When we have feelings of low self-worth, negative self-thoughts, jealousy and judgement of others or ourselves, we move away from God/Source Energy (unconditional love) and the positive things in life.
At the same time, in order to manifest what you want, you need to be in a positive frame of mind to create the path for it. You have to feel good and experience the feeling of what you want when you are in that positive feeling mode. I gave this concept a try with my most recent vehicle. I had driven 4×4 trucks for many years but was considering the purchase of a car – and more specifically – a sports car, so I took one for a test drive. Did I buy that car? No, but it enabled me to feel what it would be like to have a sports car. It felt great! A year later, I bought a sports car and have it – and love it – to this day.
When you maintain a vibration of love and a vibration of appreciation, good things result. The universe understands feelings and vibrations not words. If you are feeling sorry for yourself, or you are feeling negative about the world around you, or if you waffle back and forth between positive and negative thoughts, it makes it harder for What You Want to come to you. Likewise, if you are happy in the moment, or you decide to be deliberate about being happy and radiate that happiness, you can be more in alignment with your desires.
After all, Happiness is a Choice.
So how do you get into a “love vibration?” First check in with your thoughts. If your thoughts are negative think of something else. Check in with your feelings. If your feelings are negative switch to something else. Once you land on something positive hold that positive thought or feeling in your mind for 17 seconds.
Kent suggests making peace with where you are RIGHT NOW then:
If you are feeling bad, even for five minutes, it means you are thinking thoughts that are not in alignment with your (highest benefit). RELEASE THE RESISTANCE. Relax when you bump into an obstacle. Be in a state of love (Picture something you love and send feeling to it). Don’t look to someone to love you. You need to love you.
Kent believed we create our own reality 100 percent of the time. While I don’t necessarily agree with that statement, I can see the merit in it. For example, if you believe that “things come in threes,” including negative events, then they do (Surprise!).
If you find it is difficult to feel good about things in your life right now, then focus on other things to appreciate instead. Express gratitude for the rain because it helps the plants grow, or thank the stop sign for preventing a car from crossing your path, or thank the bird for singing, or the street lights for helping you see while driving in the dark. Sometimes expressing gratitude for the little things helps steer thoughts in a better direction.
In the Seven Spiritual Laws of Success, by Deepak Chopra, he describes The Law of Least Effort (going with the flow rather than being resistant). Rather than remaining in an experience of chaos and disorder, make a subtle shift in the way you are handling the situation and ask for a simple outcome. If you struggle against the moment, then you are struggling against the universe.
Another key to a better life is to get out of the thinking mode and into the feeling mode (The Present Moment). The universe responds to what the heart wants versus what you think you want. Be specific about your wants and don’t second guess them. Let the universe figure out how to give you what you want. Here’s why: if you “send out there” without determining the how to or the outcome, you may receive something much better than you could have possibly imagined on your own.
When you are grateful and appreciative, more of the same can come your way. I call it an Attitude of Gratitude. I make a point of checking in with my thoughts and feelings often. By doing so, I find myself complaining a lot less and appreciating what life has to offer a lot more. For a number of years now, I’ve steered clear of negative self-talk; the result is a lot less stress and a much more positive sense of well-being. In fact, I find I no longer care if I have an extra wrinkle or two or gain a couple of pounds from eating too much holiday food! It’s what’s inside that counts, right?
Kent suggested you keep your focus on: Love. Pleasure. Gratitude. Service (to others and to self) in order to keep the physical self in tune. Other steps you can take to get yourself in alignment with what you want include:
- Find ways to feel good.
- Drink more water (1 gallon a day).
- Walk or jog for 15 minutes a day.
- Get outside and breathe fresh air. (Breathe deeply)
- Create New Beliefs.
- Ground yourself.
- Detox a couple of times a year (one way to do so is to drink water only for 12 to 24 hours).
I received a very clear message the other day from my spirit guides:
Forgive EVERYONE. Forgive YOURSELF. Then forget about it. It’s the only way you will be able to progress in this life.
I’ve thought about those words a lot since I heard them inside my heart a few days ago. I thought, “Sure, I’ve forgiven everyone.” Then I did a life review – looking back at the pleasant and not so pleasant experiences in my life – then with the best of intentions, I forgave actions by people I knew that I had not thought about for a while.
Great! I’ve forgiven everyone. I am ready to progress spiritually.
But did I forgive EVERYONE?
I had blocked one person’s name and actions out of my mind for many years. Then the name popped up in the search bar on my computer. Spirit was making a point. Let’s just say that forgiveness for that individual may take a little while, but I’m working on it.
You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them. – Maya Angelou
Enjoying the abundance of life that is available right now is easier if you are not dragging the weight of past experiences like a big bag of rocks behind you as you go. Dr. Wayne Dyer said your past is history, and it is no longer in your physical reality. It cannot affect you now. For better or for worse, our sum total of experiences brought us to where we are today, so embrace it all.
To forgive others Dr. Dyer also suggests the following:
- Agree to stay connected with Spirit/God/Your Higher Self so you can radiate at a higher energy level.
- Refuse to devote any time to issues that result in making you angry before you drift off to sleep each night.
- Feel your feelings about the experience without placing blame on yourself or others. It’s called self-mastery.
- Stop telling others what to do. Withhold judgement and listen instead.
- Practice tolerance for differing views. Become water – soft and yielding – so you can glimpse what that person is experiencing through their eyes.
- Take responsibility for the experience. Once you take away the blame for the (accident/assault/lay off/illness/bad relationship, etc.) you can come to terms with it, remove it and find peace.
- Let go of resentments and anger. Be the one to offer kindness, love and forgiveness.
- Depersonalize what you hear if it offends you. Send a higher vibration of love back to that person instead.
- If you feel the need to be right in an argument see it as your ego talking. Stop the chatter and start listening.
- Stop looking for reasons to be aggravated. It will just bring you down to a lower vibration level.
- Quit wasting energy assigning importance to the past. Look at the beauty around you instead so you can shift your attention to the present.
- You made it through the horrible experience. That’s great! Honor the experience for the personal strength it gave you.
- Observe rather than judge. Remain peaceful.
Don’t Let the Past Color the Present Moment
Many of us have had not so great relationships in the past, then we wind up in similar circumstances again. Acknowledge past relationships, forgive those you need to forgive, and be grateful for those relationships so you can stop repeating the lesson. NOW you know what you DON’T want. Instead, focus on what or who you DO want in your life.
Spiritual Advancement: Ascendance Beyond the Root Chakra
What Does Forgiveness Have to Do with Spiritual and Metaphysical Advancement? Everything. To develop higher consciousness, you need to let go and detach from the ego. Life’s experiences can be lessons. Try to determine what lesson you are meant to learn so you CAN evolve.
There is an old Cherokee proverb regarding the tale of two fighting wolves. One represents evil, and the other represents good. In the story, a boy asks his grandfather, “Which one will win?” His grandfather responded: “The one you feed.”
When you are feeling negative or bitter a lot, it can cause your root chakra to be out of balance, leaving you feeling fatigued, fearful, insecure and angry. Remaining in this state for a long period of time can also negatively impact your health. The root chakra, located at the base of your spine, is also where your fight or flight response is located. It’s your primal force of being.
The key to unblocking the root chakra so you can move forward is to become grounded. Get physical! Burn off that energy by going for a walk, working in the garden, or practicing tai chi or yoga. Tell yourself that everything is going to be OK until you believe it. Instead of focusing on lack, focus on abundance. If your bank account is low, focus on other sources of abundance in your life such as friendships or other things that bring you pleasure. Practice an attitude of gratitude. For other ideas on healing the root chakra please visit: http://www.chakras.info/root-chakra-healing/.
Forgive Others Forgive Yourself
No one is perfect. That’s what makes us human. Realize you thought it was a good idea at that moment. If you can forgive others, then accept responsibility for your mistakes and forgive yourself too. One easy way to do this is to put your hand over your heart, and tell yourself you are sorry and feel and send love to the heart that beats within you. There are other tools available that can help as well. The Time Line Therapy technique, demonstrated in this video and available in book form and through courses, allows you to approach forgiveness in a different way, by floating above it so you can move beyond it. Light therapy or hypnosis are other methods that can be used to depersonalize and move beyond past experiences.
Watching hummingbirds interact this summer has taught me a lot. Hummingbirds are always aware of their surroundings. They live in the present moment. They fight with other birds over territory, but don’t take it personally when forced away from a feeder – they go to another food source instead. They don’t eat food that is not necessary for their well-being. Instead, they store food for energy so they can make their annual 500-mile trek to Central and South America for the winter. And, unless thrown off course, they know who their people are (they’ve actually looked in the window at me to see what I am up to) and come back “home” again.
Life can be filled with struggles or beautiful moments, depending on your perspective. Once we die, there are no more struggles, pain or worries. In its place is a sense of freedom, energy, and all-encompassing love. Other times, those that have departed may feel they have unfinished business that needs attention and will come back to let you or someone else know they have concerns that need to be addressed.
Sometimes loved ones come back in spirit form to assure us that there is no more that we could have said or done at the time; it was simply their time to go. If someone died with unresolved family issues, the person may want to extend an apology for their behavior. Also, they may want to let us know that they are nearby and watching over us.
I have found that despite the trauma the departed may have experienced at the end of life, death can offer a sense of peace and tranquility. What I hear often is they will help in any way they can if we ask them.
When departed loved ones come back in spirit form, they may come to us in our dreams because we are are more receptive to receiving messages when sleeping, or they may leave signs such as pennies, feathers or a familiar scent or balls of light. Oftentimes, you will start thinking about the person because they provide what I call an “energy signature” with their spirit presence, which causes you to think about them.
When a friend of mine passed away unexpectedly in 2011 and needed to get in touch with me before her funeral, she knew to contact me by messaging me through my cellular phone and computer. Using my devices was effective in gaining my immediate attention!
How Clairvoyants Determine Who is Visiting from Beyond
As a clairvoyant, I receive a combination of images, words, emotions, scents and physical sensations to help me understand who is trying to make contact. Sometimes I see the person but don’t know who it is. A day or two later, I will receive a phone call requesting a reading, and it’s typically someone from beyond who wants to contact the person who needs the psychic reading.
I may hear a name or see the person in my mind. If the visitor wants to make contact with someone specifically, I am able to help that individual determine who is visiting from the other side by describing the person’s posture, height, body shape, hairstyle or other identifying factors. I may get a flash of insight into phrases they used or things they liked to do, such as playing card games.
The deceased person will indicate how he or she passed by sending a brief burning sensation through my chest, or by causing my breath to catch, which could indicate a heart attack or pulmonary issues. I may “see” tumors, a misfiring heart valve or other malady, or experience a sick stomach, brief headache or a shooting pain in some part of my body indicating the origin of the problem; the physical sensations help me describe the manner of death as well. If the individual was murdered, I may see the murder scene “play out” before my eyes. If the individual died in a traffic accident, I may see a car or bright headlights.
After Death, Memories Shine Through
When people die, they retain favorite memories of what they loved to do in life. I may see an image of heavy or thick hands or small, delicate hands. If a man enjoyed working with wood or mechanical objects, I will see these things. Likewise, if a woman liked to bake, paint pictures, tend flowers, or surround herself with children, those images will be shown. If the person had a great laugh or a sense of humor, that portion of their personality will shine through and may cause me to smile or laugh. If the deceased person had a faithful pet, I may get an image of a dog or cat or other pets. They may also provide flashes of favorite memories, such as a father reaching out to his daughter as she learns to walk.
Sometimes when a dog or cat dies before the owner, I will see the pet still attached to the person, which to me is beautiful because it shows that unconditional love exists beyond death.
Gone Too Soon
So why do some people seem to die early in life? The simple explanation, in my experience, is their lives were meant to brief. I’ve never forgotten a little girl named Kathy I once knew who had a heart condition. She finally received a new heart at age 12, which caused her to grow rapidly over the course of a year. With her new heart, Kathy was able to experience life as a normal preteen. Unfortunately, her body rejected the heart she was given, and she passed away. While it saddened me that she was gone, I understood later that she discovered true happiness by “being normal,” and that was all she wanted.
When older people die unexpectedly, it may be that they prefer not to prolong the process of aging. Perhaps they did not want to end their days in a nursing home, or create a situation where another family member would be required to care for them. It may be that the individual was losing the ability to think or communicate as he or she wanted to do, or the person was no longer able to walk or move around without pain.
Sometimes death comes as a surprise. For example, if someone dies in an auto accident, or has a fatal heart attack or aneurysm, there may be words left unsaid. In those situations, you may be visited by the person while you are sleeping, or you may sense their presence when you are awake. If that is the case, find a photo of the individual, and speak to it. Let the person know you are thinking of them and they are missed. Light a white candle for them and wish them peace. If there is something that needs to be said, ask them to tell you in your dreams so you can share the information with the people that need to hear it.